The Soul Mate Prep Blog#23: Do you want Cinderella's fantasy?

What little girl doesn't want to be Cinderella?

We grow up in a world hearing this fairy tale.However, the real Cinderella is on house-arrest, taking care of her step-mother and two-step sisters.Her sisters are Good, Respected and have a life of their own.

In order to just survive, Cinderella has to create a fantasy...her step-mother and sisters are visible, good and respected.Cinderella is invisible, bad, worthless and disrespected.

In Cinderella's mind, her mother and sisters have to be good, otherwise she couldn't survive.This fantasy is like a mirage in the desert.Cinderella needs this fantasy, it is her life support.

Just like, if you were out in the blazing hot sun in the middle of the desert with no water to drink.The fantasy that an oasis is ahead keeps you alive but barely.Sooner or later, you are going to drop and die, if you don't get to an oasis.

Cinderella finds her oasis within...her shame comes out of hiding and thus is seen and respected. Now, she can meet her Prince and can live happily ever after!

This transformation has taken years to accomplish.She has extinguished her fantasy bond with her cruel mother and sisters and creates her real life dream...

Knowing Cinderella's fantasy: Do you want the fantasy or the real life dream?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#22: Do you think children should be the love of your life?

Years ago, a friend of mine said to me, "People don't care about loving one's body, or being a friend to one's significant other." She said, "People want security above anything else."

My friend did get married to someone she had no connection with, other than to feel secure. Days after the wedding they slept in separate rooms, and came together just for sex.

I stopped talking to her and years later she befriended me on Facebook. We corresponded via e-mail and she told me she has two children, a boy and girl. She came from a broken home and was an only child. She grew up becoming best friends with her mother. She didn't have a relationship with her father and even became resentful of men.

As we were conversing back and forth, I got the feeling which I knew all along that she would recreate the same scenario with her life. She has a very close relationship with her daughter and the husband is there to provide for her security. She views her daughter as a gift from God and not her son. So, she has become best friends with the daughter and the husband and son are on the sidelines watching their close bond.

"Since it was my responsibility to take care of my mother. I know it is not healthy to think of children as a substitute for loving one's self or as a substitute for a great relationship."-Serena Jade

Children need their own life and the parents do too!  

Do you feel your children are the love of your life?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#21: Are you sweeping the garbage out of your life?

Are you breaking the cycle?

In my own experience, one has to break the cycle inwardly.Whatever unhealthy thought/emotional system and behaviors we encounter growing up need to be transformed within.This takes a certain amount of knowledge and determination.However, once achieved the debris is not just brushed under the rug but swept up and thrown out!

Do you have the tenacity to stick to such a quest?

Serena Jade

Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant

www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#20: What is the difference between Pure-Desire vs.Longing?

Pure desire: is authentic and you are worthy of all good things.Your mind and emotions are working as a team.In your mind's eye, you are envisioning abundance and are looking forward to watching the overflowing of riches manifest. You are at a place of no doubt!

Longing: is a desperate yearning, wanting.A despair that if you don't have such and such, you feel like you are not going to survive.You are full of doubt and unworthiness,your mind and emotions are not on the same team.

Hinduism and Buddhism talk about being non-attached and being attached-leads to suffering.Non-attachment is the authentic desire.Attachment says,we desire a certain result and fear the result will not be obtained.

Clearly attachment is full of doubt and non-attachment exudes confidence.After years and years of trying to figure this wisdom out...

In my life, if I didn't care one way or the other that means I was detached- life flowed.However, when I yearned as opposed to a pure-desire, life didn't bring me my desired result because I was full of unworthiness and lack!

Being detached should not be how this wisdom works because if one is following their soul's wisdom, having the attitude one doesn't care is not suitable for living from a deep place. So, detachment should mean- a sense of being alive with the mind and emotions working together, where one knows they are worthy and knows of no lack = the ultimate-this is the law of attraction!  

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co.