The Soul Mate Prep Blog#90: Will you see a loved one after they die?

Three Soul Mates had a past life love of horses and fox hunting in Yorkshire, England, and Reincarnated in the south shore of Long Island, New York for their love of horses and racing ...

Horse racing arrived in North America from England in the year 1665. The south shore of Long Island, New York is the home of New Market racecourse. Two centuries later Jerome Park comes into being through the efforts of two visionaries, stock market investor Leonard Jerome and August Belmont Sr. Mr. Belmont is a politician, financial wizard, and racehorse owner/breeder.

The Belmont Stakes was named after Mr. Belmont and was inaugurated at Jerome Park in 1867, in which year it was won by Ruthless. In 1889 the race was moved to Morris Park, a racetrack in the Bronx. August Belmont Jr., a Harvard graduate and suave businessman, wants to build the largest racetrack in the United States. Belmont Park in Elmont, just outside of New York City, came into being in 1905 to honor Mr. Belmont’s father, August Belmont Sr.

England started its own acclaimed races in 1809, the 2,000 Guineas Stakes, the Epsom Derby, and the St. Leger Stakes. The American races matched those of England’s. The term “Triple Crown” did not enter people’s minds until the early 1930s.

The Belmont Stakes is the oldest of the Triple Crown races. Called “The Test of Champions.” -Charismatic Connection

We are not going to encounter the same exact person but we will "see" the same essence. This is exactly what I experienced with Chris. The moment Chris and I were in the presence of each other, we were completely put in a trance by one another.

We crossed paths for years and each time we locked eyes, we were under a spell. However, this was a process of awakening, our personalities were very confused about our connection.

It was not until 1999 when unlikely longshot named Charismatic and his jockey Chris Antley (Yes, that Chris) made history winning the Kentucky Derby that my connection with him made sense.


Charismatic Connection is an amazing story, I wish more people understood how extraordinary it really is...

Pick up a copy of Charismatic Connection www.amazon.com/author/serenajade today?

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#63: Do you understand your past?

Two weeks ago, I was watching the TV show Blackbox. I was appalled at what the writer's put out in the world. Blackbox is about a woman who is bipolar. The woman's psychotherapist tells her to forget the past and focus on the now.

OH MY GOD...I COULD NOT BELIEVE WHAT I WAS HEARING.HOWEVER, I DID HAVE A REALIZATION.

"There is a big difference between thinking vs. understanding one's past."-Serena Jade

If I did not understand my past, I know for a fact I would be dead right now!

Most of us think, forget the past, what is the past going to do for me now?

Thinking about the past is not going to do anything. But, understanding will transform your present and future as opposed to recreating the past!

Are you ready to understand your past?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#62: Are you decorating before laying a foundation?

A wedding in our culture is a beautiful event. However, is it celebrating a relationship built on solid ground?

If you were to build a house; you would lay the foundation and then pour the concrete to form a strong structure. Then the walls can go up and a roof is put on. The floors and windows are put in to create the home, where you can now have fun and decorate the sacred space!

So, the decoration is the last fun step. A relationship should be the same; first you lay down a foundation. Two people understand their past and transform their childhood wounds.

They pour the concrete by coming together to create a healthy supportive relationship. Now, they are ready to decorate their bond, by having a ceremony to celebrate their creation of self to the relationship!

"In our society, we put tremendous amount of effort for the wedding as opposed to putting that energy into building a strong and beautiful relationship, first to the self and then to the other."-Serena Jade 

Don't you want a solid structure before you start to decorate?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#61: Are you an actor or true lover?

If you are a regular reader of mine, thank you. You know, I discuss one's security, sharing one's body and money as opposed to using another and to own one's power for a functional self.

Functional parents will provide their members with the above in a healthy manner. A dysfunctional family will not, the parents don't have the knowledge to provide in a healthy way.

Functional parents will provide emotional security, will role-model equal sharing of sex and money and will demonstrate equal power. "Equal power means one person doesn't control both people but are two independent humans!"-Serena Jade

When functional parents exude the issues of a healthy survival system, the members are ready for the ultimate jump in our evolution!

The person can relate to dependency and independency thus becomes interdependent. There is sharing of empathy with another and the person can be a true lover as opposed to acting the part.

What does sharing empathy mean?

This means neither are identified with being dependent nor co-dependent. They are interdependent and they take into consideration being in the other person's shoes. They are in tune with the other person's feelings and problems.

The co-dependent is the caretaker and the dependent is dependent on the other person. The dependent doesn't have the insight into the other person's feelings or problems. 

An example: What if one person is having financial problems, the dependent person is not in tune with the feelings of what the other person is going through. Now, if both people are interdependent, they will know what the other person is going through.

This is just an example and can be applied to any situation. The couple transforms into true lovers as opposed to acting the part of a lover!

Do you want to be a true lover?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#60: Do you continue with the Religion you were born into just for your kids?

In the west ,we live in a secular society. Joseph Campbell, the world's expert on comparative religion said,"Our culture has gone into an economic and political phase, where the spiritual principles are completely disregarded."

Over the years, I have witnessed our secular social order, just follow along with their inherited family's religion. If parents, do not adhere to the religious system, than why do we continue?

We continue because we don't stand either way. If we have strong convictions, we will stand up to them. Like Joseph Campbell said, our society is purely economical and political.

We lost a sense of mystery to the cosmos. People will say they are more spiritual than religious. But what does this mean and can we bring up our kids to be more spiritual?

I have a profound saying," To be religious is to have an obligation to a particular religion but to be truly spiritual is to have a commitment to your soul."-Serena Jade

Can you let go of the religion you were born into?

If so, can you get in touch with the mystery in relation to yourself and the cosmos?

Can you relate this to your children?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#59: How do you share Sex and Money in a relationship?

All of us ask a question when we form a relationship. The questions are: What can the other person do for me? or What can I do for the other person?  The questions involve sex, money and procreation.

Can we transcend these questions? How do we do it?

Both of these questions create the exploiter and the martyr. One person manipulates and the other feels guilt.

To go beyond this mindset, we honor the other person. "We can say, I would like that mate in exchange for sharing our bodies for sex and to share our money resources for the mundane and for a higher purpose."-Serena Jade

"When we honor one another, we create abundance and fulfillment."-Serena Jade

However, in order to share we need to be able to share without losing our own power (independence).

Are you up for the challenge?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#57: Do you know Soul Mates/Twin Flames are in the presence of a Holy Deity?

"To touch the soul of another human being is to walk on holy ground."-Stephen R. Covey

The author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Mr. Covey, touched on the very essence of a soul mate/Twin Flame connection.

"When we become conscious of our soul's mates and or twin flame, we will be in the presence of a holy deity."-Serena Jade

"This extraordinary encounter makes me feel as if I have just arrived at a temple. I have been given access to the Divine. As I enter the room where the holy of holies resides, I can feel the spark of the Almighty deep within her. Her intense vibrant force makes me want to cry, and I am struck by the realization of how very close to her I am."-Excerpt from Charismatic Connection

The above paragraph is taken from my book, Charismatic Connection. I am putting into words what Chris Antley and I experienced. Chris was the high priest and only the high clergy has access to the holy of holies.

"Only our soul has access to the holy of holies of another."- Serena Jade -However, our lower nature must be in accord with the spiritual God or Goddess before us.

Are you ready to work on your lower nature (Personality)?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade

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Serena Jade

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#54: Are you addicted?

Did you know codependency/dependency is the cause?

Best-selling author John Bradshaw said, "Codependency/dependency is the root of addiction."

Codependency/dependency is an unhealthy way to parent. Either the parents are not physically/emotionally there for the child and grows up to be the codependent person. Or the parents are there too much for the child and grows up to be the dependent person.

"All of us are addicted to something. So, that means we are all either codependent or dependent."-Serena Jade

I grew up codependent, I was assigned the role as the caretaker for my mother. My mother was dependent and logically, the natural order of parenting was reversed. I was abandoned and left with emotional scars. I am still recovering from the emotional distress and threat from my childhood.

I would say the biggest addiction for me is trying to control my life. This is a compulsive behavior-my addiction.

However, I am aware of my dysfunctional childhood. In the past twenty-months, I unwrapped my defense mechanisms that covered up the anxiety of my stressful childhood. Not an easy feat and I continue every day to achieve healthy boundaries and connect with my higher self!

Are you aware of your childhood?

Were your parents codependent or dependent?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#53: Does synchronicity and soul mates go hand in hand?

Synchronicity is defined as two or more events as meaningfully related. Synchronicity is a bridge between the conscious and unconscious, the known and the unknown.

In my story, Charismatic Connection synchronicity played a big part in understanding the bond between Chris and I.

Four events that stand out are:

A horse I took care of was going to race on this particular cold day in New York. I wasn't wearing warm enough gloves and my hands started to go numb. My boss had to take the horse from me and I never saw the jockey get on or off my horse. I remember this day like it was yesterday. It was a moment where I made a big decision to change my life. Chris and I were not supposed to encounter each other at that point. It was not until years later that I intuitively knew he was the jockey on my horse. For years, I tried to get the proof that he was the rider. Just a few years ago, I called up the Racing Form, retrieved this horse's past history and through the process of elimination Chris Antley was the jockey on my horse!

The second event happened five years later and I step into a beauty school and I tell the teacher I work with racehorses. The teacher asks," Do I know Chris Antley?" I was not in the horse racing world at that moment and it was out of context but definitely related.

The third event happened five years later, Chris Antley and horse racing were so far from my conscious mind but now I am thinking about him. I saw he was back riding in New York. I thought, "I must be psychic when it comes to him!"

The fourth event happened two years later as I didn't watch a Kentucky Derby in years. But, on May 1, 1999, I just felt like watching the Derby. I put the TV on and I see Chris Antley is riding a long-shot named Charismatic. I just knew he was going to win and they did!  That event would crystallize our connection!

Are you open to meaningful events that will link you to a deeper connection?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#52: Is your body in the best possible condition?

Many, many moons ago, Plato said , I think a good soul by its virtue provides a body in the best possible condition.

I feel when one understands their soul, one knows their body is a vehicle for their journey. One instinctively knows to take care of their transportation for their lifetime. It is not vain to look and feel your best.

However, when our emotions are not working with our ego mind, we will hide our soul under the wicked emotions of shame and guilt. Shame and guilt translates to an overweight out of shape body.

Are you hiding your soul with an overweight body?

How are you taking care of your body?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
   Author/Speaker/An Autodidact of the Body, Mind, and Soul
         Do you have the Self-Discipline to be your own Guru?
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#50: Are you personally and spiritually on the path?

The dawning of the New Age in the 1960's saw a burst of being self-aware and eastern spiritual wisdom. If you grew up in the 1960's, you might be a person who witnessed this explosion.

Fast forward forty-eight years and the year is 2014...I am person who doesn't have any doubts of my spiritual existence. But, I have to work very hard to understand me at the personal level due to my family of origin's unhealthy ways.

I am not a person who has followed along with my family or peers. I have awakened to my personal dysfunction and I strive every day towards the union with my soul.

There is a difference between knowing about the path vs. living the path. There are a lot people who know about the path...

It is very hard to live on this road less traveled because your family, friends, neighbors are probably not living the path. For me, it has been a frustrating journey because there are not many people who can live without the influence of society telling them what is important.

However, I know if I am not true to myself, I will just follow the motions of life and never succeed towards my soul's destiny!

Are you ready to live the path?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
         Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
                                                    www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#49: Can you let go of control?

We all know the saying; you plan and God laughs. However, how many of us truly live this statement?

To live without plans is living in the moment without trying to control. When we give up control, we are going to feel empty. If we can get over the hump, we are in touch with the flow of life.
We become more in tune with our intuition; the inner wisdom of our immortal being.

Chinese medicine says, the gallbladder is associated with control. The more one's ego wants to control, the longer the soul stays hidden and neglected.

Are you ready to give up control?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
         Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
                                                      www.serenajade.co
 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#48: Are you truly independent?

The interdependent couple are two people who are independent, share power equally and take accountability for their actions and feelings.

Do we have such a role model?

As a collective society, we are just starting to transform the way we mate. In long-past times, we mated for security, social obligations and economic support. We are either co-dependent: a pseudo-independent or dependent.

Be honest and ask yourself...Do I cling to another? Do I want control of another? Do I make demands on another? Do I want to possess another?

If you answered "yes" to any of the above, you are not truly independent. Childhood unmet needs are controlling your behavior-you are not free to have a healthy relationship.

Do you want to free yourself?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."- Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
                                    www.serenajade.co
 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#47: Are you ready to unplug?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade

"The Pharisees (influential group of Jews) and the scholars have taken the keys of knowledge and have hidden them. They have not entered, nor have they allowed those who want to enter to do so."-Gospel of St. Thomas

In the 1945, in the land of a timeless desert of upper Egypt, ancient scrolls were discovered. The long-past writings are from a group of people (the Gnostics) who Knew self-knowledge was the key to know one's self, and the Transcendent force of the universe.

"I feel the Gnostic scrolls were unearthed now, because we are living in a time where we have the outer freedom, to acquire inner wisdom."-Serena Jade 

Self-knowledge is different than what you have been taught outwardly.
Can you handle being different from mainstream society?

Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#46: Are you ready to gallop into your own?

We just entered the Chinese year of the horse. Having spent my early years with the thoroughbred; I can say horses are gorgeous, exude power but at the same time are vulnerable. Horses have a sixth sense and can feel your calmness or fear...

Can you emulate the horse?

Can you take care of your body?

Can you own your power and be vulnerable at the same time?

Are you in touch with your sixth sense?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge." -Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
                                        www.serenajade.co

 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#45: Did you know Soul Mates are not just a romantic partner?

I love Dr. Brian Weiss's (author of Many Lives, Many Masters) description of soul mates: Picture a tree it has a trunk for stability and the leaves on the same branch are our soul mates. The leaves on the same twig are the closest.

Our soul's mates can have the same but slightly different experiences. When we start to understand our eternal nature, the souls closest to us will awaken with us.

I connected with my father's passion for horse racing. Horses were a love between my father's soul and mine from another lifetime. My father was definitely a soul mate of mine. Which led me to reunite with Chris who was a very close soul mate. This is my book Charismatic Connection ,you might want to read it!

My father passed away 22 years-ago and when he was alive he would tell my mother, he has been here before. I didn't know this information until years after his death.

I hope to reunite with his soul before I die and obviously his soul will be in a different body and not my father's body. In the near future, I hope to reunite with the other souls that are closest to my soul too. The closest would be my deepest Most-Profound Eternal Love.

Do you think you can recognize your soul's mates?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
          Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
                                                       www.serenajade.co

 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#44: Do you "REALLY" want to emulate the "Wolf" of Wall Street?

The film, The Wolf of Wall Street and the book, The Way Of The Wolf were fabulous. I just watched Jordan Belfort's interview with Piers Morgan. In the interview,  Jordan Belfort kept saying, you lose your soul little by little.

This is an expression," losing your soul." You have to be in touch with your intangible soul to lose it. What really should be said in my opinion is little by little one's personality/ego becomes inflated.

"When one has power with lots and lots of money, one's ego can get carried away and think they are GODLIKE: this is called Narcissism."-Serena Jade

Without values we become hedonistic and don't care what happens to the next person. A true narcissistic person has developed!

Do you really want to be narcissistic and care only for your needs?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
           Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
                                                         www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#43: What does the whole integrated person look like?

My life is not conventional, I didn't plan to go on a quest for the uncommon life. If my personality/ego had any say in the matter, she would have played it safe and continued being my mother and sister's servant.

However, the deeper part of me had other plans. I tapped into this wisdom at an early age. If I lived a conventional life, I wouldn't have a life other than being the caretaker/servant.

I had to find out why, I was feeling so bad about myself. It has taken me years and years of acquiring information about my dysfunctional life, and then I had to integrate it. What I am truly implementing now is the total understanding of being whole.

Here are 5 tips to wholeness:

1) The MOST important is to be physically and emotionally secure.

2) Once you have security, you can be autonomous and self-confident as opposed to shame and doubt. This is the place where you respect yourself and others. You can free yourself of outside influence and then you can be confident of your knowledge.

3) The heart is the bridge that connects our ego to our spiritual self. When we live from the heart we can energetically and emotionally give and receive.

4)  When we tap into our inner eye, we will have the ability to "see" and "feel" energy.

5) When we can tap into our inner eye then we will experience the  unconditional giving of energy to another and connect with the Divine energy within and without.

Do you think you can stay motivated to become whole?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
           Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
                                                   www.serenajade.co

 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#42: Do you have the courage to confront your demons?

Palm Desert, California

In Carl Jung's Red Book, he asks, is it solitude to be with one's self? His soul answers, solitude is only true when the soul is a desert.

For me, living in the desert for the past year and a half, has given me the opportunity to confront my demons.

What are my demons? For me, growing up and identifying with the pseudo-independent persona, I had to confront being alone. This means being alone in the desert triggered my abandonment issues. Codependent people hate to be alone because of the childhood unmet need. However, no one could help me confront this issue but myself.

The negative emotion of shame had to come out in the open and become a feeling again. I realize now being alone in the desert has given me the greatest gift: to know the darkest part of myself!

Are you ready to confront your demons so you can live a serene life?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#41: Do you want to create heaven on earth?

One's lack of emotional autonomy and confidence creates an imbalance of power in relationships. When one is free and independent, one will have healthy boundaries with another. One will own their thoughts and feelings (fear/doubt).So, one does not have to control someone else.

This interdependent couple: are two separate people who own their own space. Couples who see themselves as two separate people are less inclined to take one another for granted.

In a soul mate connection it is paramount to see each other as two separate people. The dysfunctional enmeshment in a traditional relationship cannot be sustained in a soul mate connection. Soul Mates "see" and "know" each other from a deep place. In order for soul mates to embrace as ONE, they need to be 2 separate people. Their relationship is based upon equal power which leads to a mutual emotional give and take...real intimacy!

Are ready to become free and independent?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co