The Soul Mate Prep Blog#112: DO WE STILL WANT RELATIONSHIPS FOR PRACTICAL REASONS?

A commercial for Campbell Soup appeared on my TV screen last night and I was not happy with the message.

You can view it here...http://ispot.tv/a/AYX0.


A man tells his girlfriend his mom used to make him soup when he was sick. She says, "Oh that's great," she gets the phone and says, "Call your mom."

This is a classic- CO-DEPENDENT AND DEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP!

GRANTED IN THE PAST, WOMEN WERE EXPECTED TO MAKE THE SOUP AND THAT IS BEING THE SERVANT. HOWEVER, THE MAN TOOK CARE OF HIS WIFE AKA-THE CO-DEPENDENT to the DEPENDENT!!

As women we still want men to take care of us BUT not the other way around.  In AN INTERDEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP BOTH ARE TAKING CARE OF EACH OTHER AND ARE TRUE LOVERS AS OPPOSED TO THE CODEPENDENT AND DEPENDENT!!!!

WHEN we TRULY CARE, we WANT TO TAKE CARE of each other AS OPPOSED TO WHAT CAN THE OTHER PERSON DO FOR ME!

DO YOU WANT AN EQUAL INTERDEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP?

OR THE OLD- FASHIONED, CO-DEPENDENT/DEPENDENT?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#61: Are you an actor or true lover?

If you are a regular reader of mine, thank you. You know, I discuss one's security, sharing one's body and money as opposed to using another and to own one's power for a functional self.

Functional parents will provide their members with the above in a healthy manner. A dysfunctional family will not, the parents don't have the knowledge to provide in a healthy way.

Functional parents will provide emotional security, will role-model equal sharing of sex and money and will demonstrate equal power. "Equal power means one person doesn't control both people but are two independent humans!"-Serena Jade

When functional parents exude the issues of a healthy survival system, the members are ready for the ultimate jump in our evolution!

The person can relate to dependency and independency thus becomes interdependent. There is sharing of empathy with another and the person can be a true lover as opposed to acting the part.

What does sharing empathy mean?

This means neither are identified with being dependent nor co-dependent. They are interdependent and they take into consideration being in the other person's shoes. They are in tune with the other person's feelings and problems.

The co-dependent is the caretaker and the dependent is dependent on the other person. The dependent doesn't have the insight into the other person's feelings or problems. 

An example: What if one person is having financial problems, the dependent person is not in tune with the feelings of what the other person is going through. Now, if both people are interdependent, they will know what the other person is going through.

This is just an example and can be applied to any situation. The couple transforms into true lovers as opposed to acting the part of a lover!

Do you want to be a true lover?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
www.serenajade.co

 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#48: Are you truly independent?

The interdependent couple are two people who are independent, share power equally and take accountability for their actions and feelings.

Do we have such a role model?

As a collective society, we are just starting to transform the way we mate. In long-past times, we mated for security, social obligations and economic support. We are either co-dependent: a pseudo-independent or dependent.

Be honest and ask yourself...Do I cling to another? Do I want control of another? Do I make demands on another? Do I want to possess another?

If you answered "yes" to any of the above, you are not truly independent. Childhood unmet needs are controlling your behavior-you are not free to have a healthy relationship.

Do you want to free yourself?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."- Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
                                    www.serenajade.co
 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#41: Do you want to create heaven on earth?

One's lack of emotional autonomy and confidence creates an imbalance of power in relationships. When one is free and independent, one will have healthy boundaries with another. One will own their thoughts and feelings (fear/doubt).So, one does not have to control someone else.

This interdependent couple: are two separate people who own their own space. Couples who see themselves as two separate people are less inclined to take one another for granted.

In a soul mate connection it is paramount to see each other as two separate people. The dysfunctional enmeshment in a traditional relationship cannot be sustained in a soul mate connection. Soul Mates "see" and "know" each other from a deep place. In order for soul mates to embrace as ONE, they need to be 2 separate people. Their relationship is based upon equal power which leads to a mutual emotional give and take...real intimacy!

Are ready to become free and independent?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#19: Are you balancing your heart?

The heart center is a valuable place within us.Here we have two important aspects, the dependent and caretaker.Usually, but not always the mother and father are the caretakers for their children and the child is the dependent one.Ideally, this child grows up having both the aspects of the dependent and caretaker within.So, when the child gets into a relationship with a significant other, they should be able to depend on one another and be the caretaker for each other...this is a true interdependent relationship!

 

Are you ready for this evolved relationship? 

 

Serena Jade

Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant