The Soul Mate Prep Blog#112: DO WE STILL WANT RELATIONSHIPS FOR PRACTICAL REASONS?

A commercial for Campbell Soup appeared on my TV screen last night and I was not happy with the message.

You can view it here...http://ispot.tv/a/AYX0.


A man tells his girlfriend his mom used to make him soup when he was sick. She says, "Oh that's great," she gets the phone and says, "Call your mom."

This is a classic- CO-DEPENDENT AND DEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP!

GRANTED IN THE PAST, WOMEN WERE EXPECTED TO MAKE THE SOUP AND THAT IS BEING THE SERVANT. HOWEVER, THE MAN TOOK CARE OF HIS WIFE AKA-THE CO-DEPENDENT to the DEPENDENT!!

As women we still want men to take care of us BUT not the other way around.  In AN INTERDEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP BOTH ARE TAKING CARE OF EACH OTHER AND ARE TRUE LOVERS AS OPPOSED TO THE CODEPENDENT AND DEPENDENT!!!!

WHEN we TRULY CARE, we WANT TO TAKE CARE of each other AS OPPOSED TO WHAT CAN THE OTHER PERSON DO FOR ME!

DO YOU WANT AN EQUAL INTERDEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP?

OR THE OLD- FASHIONED, CO-DEPENDENT/DEPENDENT?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#106: Are you the Co-Dependent Caretaker?

Last week I had a vivid dream; a man was drowning in a pool and another man was in the pool with him. I was standing outside the pool watching and I screamed," You can save him." But the other man didn't help and I didn't jump in, I watched the man go under.

This dream was very profound, I was conditioned at a young age to be the caretaker. The caretaker pays too much attention to other people's problems at the expense of their own well-being and needs!

The caretaker sets up a triangle known as the Karpman Drama. The caretaker is the rescuer but the person who their rescuing (victim) unconsciously resents the help, thus becomes the persecutor to the caretaker and now the caretaker becomes the victim! 

In my life, I now state, no one becomes more important than me! In the near future, I can meet my

mirror image and hold him in awe without possession!

Are you the Co-dependent Caretaker with your parents, siblings, friends, spouse or children?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
Creating Awareness/Uplifting Society
Bringing unconscious Social/Spiritual wisdom to the world...
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#19: Are you balancing your heart?

The heart center is a valuable place within us.Here we have two important aspects, the dependent and caretaker.Usually, but not always the mother and father are the caretakers for their children and the child is the dependent one.Ideally, this child grows up having both the aspects of the dependent and caretaker within.So, when the child gets into a relationship with a significant other, they should be able to depend on one another and be the caretaker for each other...this is a true interdependent relationship!

 

Are you ready for this evolved relationship? 

 

Serena Jade

Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant