The Soul Mate Prep Blog#23: Do you want Cinderella's fantasy?

What little girl doesn't want to be Cinderella?

We grow up in a world hearing this fairy tale.However, the real Cinderella is on house-arrest, taking care of her step-mother and two-step sisters.Her sisters are Good, Respected and have a life of their own.

In order to just survive, Cinderella has to create a fantasy...her step-mother and sisters are visible, good and respected.Cinderella is invisible, bad, worthless and disrespected.

In Cinderella's mind, her mother and sisters have to be good, otherwise she couldn't survive.This fantasy is like a mirage in the desert.Cinderella needs this fantasy, it is her life support.

Just like, if you were out in the blazing hot sun in the middle of the desert with no water to drink.The fantasy that an oasis is ahead keeps you alive but barely.Sooner or later, you are going to drop and die, if you don't get to an oasis.

Cinderella finds her oasis within...her shame comes out of hiding and thus is seen and respected. Now, she can meet her Prince and can live happily ever after!

This transformation has taken years to accomplish.She has extinguished her fantasy bond with her cruel mother and sisters and creates her real life dream...

Knowing Cinderella's fantasy: Do you want the fantasy or the real life dream?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#16: Are you into Couples Therapy?

Last night, I was watching a cable TV series called Couples Therapy.Five couples living in a California resort and willing to talk about their problems with a psychotherapist.

Listening to these people talk about their family dysfunction and they and (we) expect to have a great relationship?

How can we live happily ever after, if we come from such
dysfunction?

I am on this earth for 47 years and in my own experience, we must understand our family dysfunction and our role in it, before we enter a relationship with another.I know this goes against what we have been taught.However, if I didn't take the time to be an explorer of my own personal history, there was no way another person can make up for what my family could not provide for me!

"We need to be in a relationship with our self before we enter a relationship with another."-Serena Jade

Are you willing to be an explorer of your history?

Are you willing to be alone to get in touch with you?

                           Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co