If I saw my 20 year-old self walking down the street-first I would give her a big hug. Then I would tell her it is going to be a long difficult road ahead.I would tell her the sooner she understands her personal history, the faster her suffering will dissipate...
I would tell my 20 year-old self: When you were little you repeatedly experienced the shame of abandonment.Your dysfunctional family gave you an environment where they said non verbally,"you are not important, you are not of value."
At age 5, you were on the school's playground feeling all alone, very scared. We are going to fast forward a few years, and you were at a friend's house, you must have been 7 or 8 years- old. Your so-called friend and another child locked you inside a room.They were making fun of you, telling you over again, you are not of value.You were very scared and ran home, you knew you couldn't tell your mother, she would not validate your feelings.So, you ran into your bedroom where you felt safe.
You hated school for the number 1 reason you repeatedly felt left out.However, that was what you were experiencing at home and the result was magnified at school.
When you look back at your life, you will be amazed on how you have survived. In the animal world, when a pup is left all alone without their clan-they are overpowered and killed by a predator.Your whole life you have been overpowered by mean and cruel people.You were taught to be Nice even if people are not Nice to you-a victim statement.
My twenty year -old self-stand up for yourself and know deeply you are important and have lots of value..know it, believe it!
Would you encourage your 20 year- old self to look at their personal history?
If not, know that their past is recreated in the present!
Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.com
I would tell my 20 year-old self: When you were little you repeatedly experienced the shame of abandonment.Your dysfunctional family gave you an environment where they said non verbally,"you are not important, you are not of value."
At age 5, you were on the school's playground feeling all alone, very scared. We are going to fast forward a few years, and you were at a friend's house, you must have been 7 or 8 years- old. Your so-called friend and another child locked you inside a room.They were making fun of you, telling you over again, you are not of value.You were very scared and ran home, you knew you couldn't tell your mother, she would not validate your feelings.So, you ran into your bedroom where you felt safe.
You hated school for the number 1 reason you repeatedly felt left out.However, that was what you were experiencing at home and the result was magnified at school.
When you look back at your life, you will be amazed on how you have survived. In the animal world, when a pup is left all alone without their clan-they are overpowered and killed by a predator.Your whole life you have been overpowered by mean and cruel people.You were taught to be Nice even if people are not Nice to you-a victim statement.
My twenty year -old self-stand up for yourself and know deeply you are important and have lots of value..know it, believe it!
Would you encourage your 20 year- old self to look at their personal history?
If not, know that their past is recreated in the present!
Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.com
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