In all relationships, there's one person trying to avoid separation or avoiding too much togetherness.
The person who is trying to avoid separateness had parents who withheld attention, affection and are the people-pleasers.
The person who is trying to avoid too much togetherness had parents who invaded their space and are the selfish-ones.
In the beginning of any relationship, both people are flowing and creating an unrealistic scenario and giving up all their time. Down the road, one person starts to pull away and the one who is trying to avoid separation experiences the loss of all togetherness. Fear creates the tension and the struggle for power and distance is upon us.
"When the power of love overcomes the love for power, the world (and you) will know peace."-Jimi Hendrix-I am inserting [you] because when we overcome the love for power, you will know peace!
How can we overcome this very common interplay?
We need to become fully autonomous and own our independence and space. So, then we have the ideal trinity-My Space, Your Space and Our Space!
But, for this to work both people need to confront their fears of trying to avoid too much separateness or togetherness.
Are you ready to stop focusing on trying to prevent your partner, friend, child from abandoning you?
Are you ready to give up some of your time and embrace togetherness?
If we can accomplish this very difficult task; we can experience real intimacy regardless if you are soul mates or not. But, this authentic intimacy will be extremely intense with true soul mates!
"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
Creating Awareness/Uplifting Society
Bringing unconscious Social/Spiritual wisdom to the world...
www.serenajade.co
The person who is trying to avoid separateness had parents who withheld attention, affection and are the people-pleasers.
The person who is trying to avoid too much togetherness had parents who invaded their space and are the selfish-ones.
In the beginning of any relationship, both people are flowing and creating an unrealistic scenario and giving up all their time. Down the road, one person starts to pull away and the one who is trying to avoid separation experiences the loss of all togetherness. Fear creates the tension and the struggle for power and distance is upon us.
"When the power of love overcomes the love for power, the world (and you) will know peace."-Jimi Hendrix-I am inserting [you] because when we overcome the love for power, you will know peace!
How can we overcome this very common interplay?
We need to become fully autonomous and own our independence and space. So, then we have the ideal trinity-My Space, Your Space and Our Space!
But, for this to work both people need to confront their fears of trying to avoid too much separateness or togetherness.
Are you ready to stop focusing on trying to prevent your partner, friend, child from abandoning you?
Are you ready to give up some of your time and embrace togetherness?
If we can accomplish this very difficult task; we can experience real intimacy regardless if you are soul mates or not. But, this authentic intimacy will be extremely intense with true soul mates!
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| Taken from the book, The Two Step: The Dance Toward Intimacy by Eileen McCann |
"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
Creating Awareness/Uplifting Society
Bringing unconscious Social/Spiritual wisdom to the world...
www.serenajade.co
