Enmeshment is when personal boundaries are violated because we are influenced by outside authority.
As a society, we assume oneness means enmeshment-we are one with our beloved. Enmeshment creates the common dominate and submissive. This is not an equal relationship!
One person wants control over the other, making the other person subservient. The person with the control eventually takes the other person for granted and has become an extension, thus is not seen as a separate person. Therefore, the one with the control does not think highly of the other. This is not oneness!!!
"True oneness is when two autonomous people, recognize the soul in another and become one at their spiritual essence but remain two separate autonomous people."-Serena Jade
Do you think you can be one without enmeshment?
"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel"-Serena Jade
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We live in an outer-directed world, where an inner focus is frowned upon.
What is an inner focus?
An inner focus is reflecting and understanding one's limitations. We can easily blame an outside source but ultimately, we are our own hero.
When we are free of outside influence, we are autonomous. When we have autonomy, we can live from the heart, which connects our personality to our soul and live our purpose.
Do you have peace?
If you are trying to control your environment, your inner life is in disarray!
Are you ready to focus inward?
"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jadewww.serenajade.co
Recently, I read an article about marriage. As I was reading the comments, most people say a great relationship is based on mutual respect, common goals and love.
I ask you: Do you think we are living these values?
It is easy to say mutual respect but to have mutual respect means both people have to be autonomous-that means free from outside influence.
If most people are following along with their family and friends, they are not autonomous. Most marriages, if not all are based on the common goal of family and children, and not a common goal of the two individuals!
Now, we have love-the grand elusive word. However, connecting with someone at the heart is very profound because we are on bridge that connects our personality with our soul.
When we connect personally with our soul, we will connect with someone at the heart level. Now, we are a real lover as opposed to an actor! But, this takes a tremendous amount of understanding of one's self.
Are you ready to stop the fantasy bond about the traditional marriage?
"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The traditional marriage was first and foremost about survival. Survival of civilization, families, our species and ourselves.
In the west, we don't think of marriage is for survival, we think we are marrying for love. Today, we associate doing equal chores for an egalitarian relationship!
Friedrich Nietzsche stated: As society changes, we need to change our values. It is simple idiotic to attempt to live by the values of another age.
If you observe, you will notice people are unconsciously marrying for survival needs! We NEED security, we exploit for money and sex. We mindlessly procreate and we demonstrate our power or lack of power with another.
Are you willing to change your old values and live by new ones?
If so, this means you will consciously balance the needs of survival first and then marry. Are you ready to marry for love and not survival?
"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
Bringing unconscious wisdom to the world...www.serenajade.co
