Is Your Heart Truly Open? Uncovering the Karmic Layers Within

The Heart's Awakening by William Bouguereau


"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."-Rumi
 
FROM THE YEAR 2007-"The tendency to think about the other person’s feelings, more than mine is alive within me, and the need for approval to give myself validation in return. That is the karma between us; I disregard myself, but I am dependent on the relationship. And because I disregard my feelings, I don't trust my feelings.
 
 He has control and sees me as an extension not as a separate person. He withdraws as the reaction, the more he withdraws I become frustrated and become the victim to my caretaker syndrome. My fear is abandonment, but I abandon myself and I feel responsible for the other. The more I feel responsible, the more he withdraws and I feel abandoned even more.

Karma is a Sanskrit word meaning action = reaction. I am mimicking with James, my relationship with my mother.
I have been taught to disregard my feelings and think about my mother and her needs; I am responsible for her. But, underneath the façade, I am dependent on the relationship. I try to get my mother's approval, but I never receive it. This creates my habitual Reassurance behavior, where I seek reassurance and give my power away. 

As I look for reassurance, I leave myself open for others to dictate my worth and my choices. I've built this pattern where I invest in others and that becomes my way of feeling valued. I am basically trading caretaking for my own reassurance, instead of drawing it from my own sense of self, giving myself the validation.

I have to become safe and secure and stop my people pleasing, and trust my feelings and judgement, not an easy task. 
Once I transform, I will no longer be its victim.

 I will be responsible to me and to another, not for another.  

I will honor myself and be autonomous and can be caring-detached and then, I will move out of the karmic situation and move on to my deepest most-profound eternal love.

When is this going to happen? I do not know.

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"When our heart is ready for love - we have transcended our

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