The Soul Mate Prep Blog#106: Are you the Co-Dependent Caretaker?

Last week I had a vivid dream; a man was drowning in a pool and another man was in the pool with him. I was standing outside the pool watching and I screamed," You can save him." But the other man didn't help and I didn't jump in, I watched the man go under.

This dream was very profound, I was conditioned at a young age to be the caretaker. The caretaker pays too much attention to other people's problems at the expense of their own well-being and needs!

The caretaker sets up a triangle known as the Karpman Drama. The caretaker is the rescuer but the person who their rescuing (victim) unconsciously resents the help, thus becomes the persecutor to the caretaker and now the caretaker becomes the victim! 

In my life, I now state, no one becomes more important than me! In the near future, I can meet my

mirror image and hold him in awe without possession!

Are you the Co-dependent Caretaker with your parents, siblings, friends, spouse or children?

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#105: Are you the Selfish-One or the People-Pleaser?

In all relationships, there's one person trying to avoid separation or avoiding too much togetherness.

The person who is trying to avoid separateness had parents who withheld attention, affection and are the people-pleasers.

The person who is trying to avoid too much togetherness had parents who invaded their space and are the selfish-ones.

In the beginning of any relationship, both people are flowing and creating an unrealistic scenario and giving up all their time. Down the road, one person starts to pull away and the one who is trying to avoid separation experiences the loss of all togetherness. Fear creates the tension and the struggle for power and distance is upon us.

"When the power of love overcomes the love for power, the world (and you) will know peace."-Jimi Hendrix-I am inserting [you] because when we overcome the love for power, you will know peace!

How can we overcome this very common interplay? 

We need to become fully autonomous and own our independence and space. So, then we have the ideal trinity-My Space, Your Space and Our Space!

But, for this to work both people need to confront their fears of trying to avoid too much separateness or togetherness.

Are you ready to stop focusing on trying to prevent your partner, friend, child from abandoning you?


Are you ready to give up some of your time and embrace togetherness?

If we can accomplish this very difficult task; we can experience real intimacy regardless if you are soul mates or not. But, this authentic intimacy will be extremely intense with true soul mates!

Taken from the book, The Two Step: The Dance Toward Intimacy by Eileen McCann

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#104: Do you abuse your power or do you give it away?

In the book, The Heroine's Journey by Maureen Murdock she explains: In patriarchal relationships, there is always a dominate and submissive. The dominate person has to keep a one up position (abusing their power). 

"To own one's power is to have full autonomy."-Serena Jade

If one had parents who put shame and doubt on them, or they put shame and doubt on others, then one does not own one's autonomy. One will get into ALL relationships, where there is a dominate and submissive.

To have self-knowledge is to know which one you are; 
Are you the dominate or submissive?

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#103: Soul Mates are "the buzz" but our emotions are in the Middle Ages...

Since the dawning of civilization, we have mated for survival! Like a woman I knew in New York, she admitted she picked a husband for "Practical Reasons." Her husband provided an abundance of money, expensive gifts, cars, two children and a gorgeous house in an affluent neighborhood on Long Island.

Her father instilled in her, she was worthy of abundance. However, her father failed to instill in her, she was worthy to be treated with respect and to have fulfillment with the abundance.

She has been married for 15 years and has accepted their lack of emotional closeness. She overlooks his coldness and love for power and control. She has repressed her sexual appetite, they sleep in separate rooms and he doesn't make love to her, they get laid!

She married for "Practical Reasons" NOT for an authentic connection.She is now divorced.

Fifty Shades phenomenon says it all as millions of women still want men for practical reasons!

Women and Men, let's get our emotions balanced, then a soul mate is within our reach. Are you willing to work for an authentic connection?

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#102: Jupiter Ascending-a look at the Heroine's journey...

(Masculine) -Astronomy tells us Jupiter is the largest planet in our solar system. (Feminine)- Astrology tells us Jupiter is about expansion and abundance.

Jupiter Ascending is a new film written and directed by the Wachowski siblings. Jupiter Jones is Cinderella-like. Her father was killed before she was born and now Jupiter and her mother are cleaning ladies. But, Jupiter is a reincarnated Queen. Can she reclaim her throne?

The Wachowski siblings were going for the hero's journey with Jupiter. The hero's journey has been told throughout history that the hero's father is absent from the hero's life. The same sex parent has the most influence in a child's life.

So, in the heroine's journey, the mother figure is the most important. However, there is not that much written about the heroine's journey. All we have are tales of Cinderella, Snow White and they are dealing with stepmothers and sisters. As a society, we don't want to accept there are mothers and sisters who are just as cruel. In real life, the women who endure such cruelty become the caretakers for their elderly parents and who in society have been labeled; Old Maids. But, we are living in the twenty-first century and the caretakers can overcome their fate by an enormous amount of self-knowledge! Then they can use their positive father role model and be effective in the world...the servant becomes the heroine!

Of course, this process takes years of uncovering shame and doubt. The "Good Person" becomes a whole person. They are free from outside influence.

With Jupiter ascending, we don't witness Jupiter asserting her influence. But, nonetheless, I loved the film and I especially loved the ending.

Will you see Jupiter Ascending?

Do you think you can transcend your shame and doubt?

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#101: Do you revere your fellow human?

Ananda Spa, India

 

When I was at Ananda Spa, I loved the gesture of reverence called Anjali mudra. When you walked passed another human you were expected to acknowledge the person.

 

With your hands pressed together and palms touching, it is known that you bow to the Divine in the other.

 

The west is missing this very basic but very profound recognition of the other. However, true soul mates/twin flames naturally "see" the Divine spark!

 

When you walk pass your fellow human, can you acknowledge the person and the Divine energy in them?

 

 

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#100: Do you consider yourself Spiritual?

"The key to growth is the introduction of higher dimensions of consciousness into our awareness."- Lao Tzu

Lao Tzu the founder of Taoism was very wise, but I am going to insert an important word-spiritual.

Spiritual growth is the introduction of higher consciousness. Spiritual growth is NOT the same as personal growth. Personal growth relates to our ego and spiritual growth relates to our soul.

If you say you are spiritual, are you in touch with your sixth sense?

"When we live from the heart, we balance our ego and soul in the here and now."-Serena Jade

Authentic soul mates/twin flames wake up and realize the higher dimensions in the other-true Soul Mates/Twin Flames!

Are you authentically spiritual?

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