The Soul Mate Prep Blog#25: Do you know love is a name we give for the pursuit of wholeness?

In an ordinary enchantment, we are attracted to someone for two reasons...

1.We are sexually attracted to their appearance.

2.The other person has the missing personality traits we need to be whole.

When we get involved in this relationship it feels wonderful in the beginning.Plato understood this phenomenon and said 2500 years ago, "Love is just a name we give to the desire and pursuit of wholeness."

We feel elated and euphoric however, this sense of enlightenment does not last for long.

Why do you think this is?

The other person is temporarily making you feel whole.But this is a false sense of wholeness.After the initial phase both people start to create power struggles with the missing trait; projected onto the other person.

Instead of marrying this person, we can be in a relationship with them...I call this a potential growth relationship because we can transform into a whole person!

"When we are whole, we can partner with our soul's mates." - Serena Jade

Are you ready to be in a personal growth relationship?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#24: Where were you on September 11, 2002?

September 11, 2001, will be forever etched in my mind, as well as the whole United States. Growing up, I marveled at the Twin Towers and on a clear day you could see them from miles away.

The morning of 9/11, was one of those rare beautiful New York days.There wasn't a cloud in the sky and the temperature was going to be in the 80's...

What I witnessed, the following year on September 11, 2002, is just as profound.Collectively, everyone in New York and the country if not the world focused on the first anniversary.

The departed souls and everyone thinking about the same event created such an intense all-consuming wind that whipped through the entire tri-state area of New York.The strong gusts were extreme and everyone knew the souls who died on 9/11 were with us.

Do you think it is possible to change the world, if large numbers of people came together thinking the same thought?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co
 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#23: Do you want Cinderella's fantasy?

What little girl doesn't want to be Cinderella?

We grow up in a world hearing this fairy tale.However, the real Cinderella is on house-arrest, taking care of her step-mother and two-step sisters.Her sisters are Good, Respected and have a life of their own.

In order to just survive, Cinderella has to create a fantasy...her step-mother and sisters are visible, good and respected.Cinderella is invisible, bad, worthless and disrespected.

In Cinderella's mind, her mother and sisters have to be good, otherwise she couldn't survive.This fantasy is like a mirage in the desert.Cinderella needs this fantasy, it is her life support.

Just like, if you were out in the blazing hot sun in the middle of the desert with no water to drink.The fantasy that an oasis is ahead keeps you alive but barely.Sooner or later, you are going to drop and die, if you don't get to an oasis.

Cinderella finds her oasis within...her shame comes out of hiding and thus is seen and respected. Now, she can meet her Prince and can live happily ever after!

This transformation has taken years to accomplish.She has extinguished her fantasy bond with her cruel mother and sisters and creates her real life dream...

Knowing Cinderella's fantasy: Do you want the fantasy or the real life dream?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#22: Do you think children should be the love of your life?

Years ago, a friend of mine said to me, "People don't care about loving one's body, or being a friend to one's significant other." She said, "People want security above anything else."

My friend did get married to someone she had no connection with, other than to feel secure. Days after the wedding they slept in separate rooms, and came together just for sex.

I stopped talking to her and years later she befriended me on Facebook. We corresponded via e-mail and she told me she has two children, a boy and girl. She came from a broken home and was an only child. She grew up becoming best friends with her mother. She didn't have a relationship with her father and even became resentful of men.

As we were conversing back and forth, I got the feeling which I knew all along that she would recreate the same scenario with her life. She has a very close relationship with her daughter and the husband is there to provide for her security. She views her daughter as a gift from God and not her son. So, she has become best friends with the daughter and the husband and son are on the sidelines watching their close bond.

"Since it was my responsibility to take care of my mother. I know it is not healthy to think of children as a substitute for loving one's self or as a substitute for a great relationship."-Serena Jade

Children need their own life and the parents do too!  

Do you feel your children are the love of your life?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#21: Are you sweeping the garbage out of your life?

Are you breaking the cycle?

In my own experience, one has to break the cycle inwardly.Whatever unhealthy thought/emotional system and behaviors we encounter growing up need to be transformed within.This takes a certain amount of knowledge and determination.However, once achieved the debris is not just brushed under the rug but swept up and thrown out!

Do you have the tenacity to stick to such a quest?

Serena Jade

Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant

www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#20: What is the difference between Pure-Desire vs.Longing?

Pure desire: is authentic and you are worthy of all good things.Your mind and emotions are working as a team.In your mind's eye, you are envisioning abundance and are looking forward to watching the overflowing of riches manifest. You are at a place of no doubt!

Longing: is a desperate yearning, wanting.A despair that if you don't have such and such, you feel like you are not going to survive.You are full of doubt and unworthiness,your mind and emotions are not on the same team.

Hinduism and Buddhism talk about being non-attached. However, being attached-leads to suffering.

Non-attachment is the authentic desire.Attachment says,we desire a certain result and fear the result will not be obtained.

Clearly attachment is full of doubt, and non-attachment exudes confidence.After years and years of trying to figure this wisdom out...

In my life, if I didn't care one way or the other that means I was detached- life flowed.However, when I yearned as opposed to a pure-desire, life didn't bring me my desired result because I was full of unworthiness and doubt.

So, detachment means- a sense of being alive with the mind and emotions working together, where one knows they are worthy and knows of no lack = the ultimate-this is the law of attraction!  

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co.

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#19: Are you balancing your heart?

The heart center is a valuable place within us.Here we have two important aspects, the dependent and caretaker.Usually, but not always the mother and father are the caretakers for their children and the child is the dependent one.Ideally, this child grows up having both the aspects of the dependent and caretaker within.So, when the child gets into a relationship with a significant other, they should be able to depend on one another and be the caretaker for each other...this is a true interdependent relationship!

 

Are you ready for this evolved relationship? 

 

Serena Jade

Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant