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Tuesday, April 15, 2014

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#55: What do women want most in a man that starts with the letter M?

Sacred (Money) and Profane (Soul Mate) Love by Titian


Fourteen sunsets ago, I was flipping through the channels and stopped at Family Feud. Steve Harvey, the host, asked, What do women want most in a man that starts with the letter M?

The contestants answered, masculinity, muscles. However, the number 1 answer was...Money!

What does this say about our society?

"We say we want love but our emotions say, "I need someone else to be responsible for me."-Serena Jade

Most women want to be taken care of but when someone else is responsible for another, it creates an imbalance.

The imbalance sets up a child to a parent relationship. As a society, let's transcend our 12th century emotions into a 21st- century, interdependent couple!

Are you ready to change?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/ 
www.serenajade.co

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#54: Are you addicted?

Did you know codependency/dependency is the cause?

Best-selling author John Bradshaw said, "Codependency/dependency is the root of addiction."

Codependency/dependency is an unhealthy way to parent. Either the parents are not physically/emotionally there for the child and grows up to be the codependent person. Or the parents are there too much for the child and grows up to be the dependent person.

"All of us are addicted to something. So, that means we are all either codependent or dependent."-Serena Jade

I grew up codependent, I was assigned the role as the caretaker for my mother. My mother was dependent and logically, the natural order of parenting was reversed. I was abandoned and left with emotional scars. I am still recovering from the emotional distress and threat from my childhood.

I would say the biggest addiction for me is trying to control my life. This is a compulsive behavior-my addiction.

However, I am aware of my dysfunctional childhood. In the past twenty-months, I unwrapped my defense mechanisms that covered up the anxiety of my stressful childhood. Not an easy feat and I continue every day to achieve healthy boundaries and connect with my higher self!

Are you aware of your childhood?

Were your parents codependent or dependent?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
www.serenajade.co

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#53: Does synchronicity and soul mates go hand in hand?

Synchronicity is defined as two or more events as meaningfully related. Synchronicity is a bridge between the conscious and unconscious, the known and the unknown.

In my story, Charismatic Connection synchronicity played a big part in understanding the bond between Chris and I.

Four events that stand out are:

A horse I took care of was going to race on this particular cold day in New York. I wasn't wearing warm enough gloves and my hands started to go numb. My boss had to take the horse from me and I never saw the jockey get on or off my horse. I remember this day like it was yesterday. It was a moment where I made a big decision to change my life. Chris and I were not supposed to encounter each other at that point. It was not until years later that I intuitively knew he was the jockey on my horse. For years, I tried to get the proof that he was the rider. Just a few years ago, I called up the Racing Form, retrieved this horse's past history and through the process of elimination Chris Antley was the jockey on my horse!



The second event happened five years later and I step into a beauty school and I tell the teacher I work with racehorses. The teacher asks," Do I know Chris Antley?" I was not in the horse racing world at that moment and it was out of context but definitely related.

The third event happened five years later, Chris Antley and horse racing were so far from my conscious mind but now I am thinking about him. I saw he was back riding in New York. I thought, "I must be psychic when it comes to him!"

The fourth event happened two years later as I didn't watch a Kentucky Derby in years. But, on May 1, 1999, I just felt like watching the Derby. I put the TV on and I see Chris Antley is riding a long-shot named Charismatic. I just knew he was going to win and they did!  That event would crystallize our connection!

Are you open to meaningful events that will link you to a deeper connection?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
www.serenajade.co

Monday, March 24, 2014

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#52: Is your body in the best possible condition?

Many, many moons ago, Plato said , I think a good soul by its virtue provides a body in the best possible condition.

I feel when one understands their soul, one knows their body is a vehicle for their journey. One instinctively knows to take care of their transportation for their lifetime. It is not vain to look and feel your best.

However, when our emotions are not working with our ego mind, we will hide our soul under the wicked emotions of shame and guilt. Shame and guilt translates to an overweight out of shape body.

Are you hiding your soul with an overweight body?

How are you taking care of your body?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
   Author/Speaker/An Autodidact of the Body, Mind, and Soul
         Do you have the Self-Discipline to be your own Guru?
                                                      www.serenajade.co

 

Tuesday, March 18, 2014

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#51: Do people See and Respect you?


 I was born into a family who rejected me. Thus, my primary needs
Serena Jade being shamed and rejected.
 
like respect and being taken seriously have eluded me. My family were the first people who dismissed me as if I were not there. These unmet childhood needs have controlled my life.

Through my 47-years on this planet, I have recreated the same situation over and over again. I am not seen as a person who has deep wisdom.

Shame and self-doubt has become my identity. How will I overcome this demon?

Just recently, I let go of control and got in touch with my hurt and anger. As I cut through the deep emotional pain, I am able to cease the negative voice.

I have created a mantra: I am seen and respected!

Only time will tell if my new voice will bring me peace...

Were you the Good child or Bad child?

The Good child is always seen and respected.
The Bad Child is dismissed and disrespected.

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
         www.serenajade.co




 

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#50: Are you personally and spiritually on the path?

The dawning of the New Age in the 1960's saw a burst of being self-aware and eastern spiritual wisdom. If you grew up in the 1960's, you might be a person who witnessed this explosion.

Fast forward forty-eight years and the year is 2014...I am person who doesn't have any doubts of my spiritual existence. But, I have to work very hard to understand me at the personal level due to my family of origin's unhealthy ways.

I am not a person who has followed along with my family or peers. I have awakened to my personal dysfunction and I strive every day towards the union with my soul.

There is a difference between knowing about the path vs. living the path. There are a lot people who know about the path...

It is very hard to live on this road less traveled because your family, friends, neighbors are probably not living the path. For me, it has been a frustrating journey because there are not many people who can live without the influence of society telling them what is important.

However, I know if I am not true to myself, I will just follow the motions of life and never succeed towards my soul's destiny!

Are you ready to live the path?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
         Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
                                                    www.serenajade.co

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#49: Can you let go of control?

We all know the saying; you plan and God laughs. However, how many of us truly live this statement?

To live without plans is living in the moment without trying to control. When we give up control, we are going to feel empty. If we can get over the hump, we are in touch with the flow of life.
We become more in tune with our intuition; the inner wisdom of our immortal being.

Chinese medicine says, the gallbladder is associated with control. The more one's ego wants to control, the longer the soul stays hidden and neglected.

Are you ready to give up control?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
         Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
                                                      www.serenajade.co