The Soul Mate Prep Blog#61: Are you an actor or true lover?

If you are a regular reader of mine, thank you. You know, I discuss one's security, sharing one's body and money as opposed to using another and to own one's power for a functional self.

Functional parents will provide their members with the above in a healthy manner. A dysfunctional family will not, the parents don't have the knowledge to provide in a healthy way.

Functional parents will provide emotional security, will role-model equal sharing of sex and money and will demonstrate equal power. "Equal power means one person doesn't control both people but are two independent humans!"-Serena Jade

When functional parents exude the issues of a healthy survival system, the members are ready for the ultimate jump in our evolution!

The person can relate to dependency and independency thus becomes interdependent. There is sharing of empathy with another and the person can be a true lover as opposed to acting the part.

What does sharing empathy mean?

This means neither are identified with being dependent nor co-dependent. They are interdependent and they take into consideration being in the other person's shoes. They are in tune with the other person's feelings and problems.

The co-dependent is the caretaker and the dependent is dependent on the other person. The dependent doesn't have the insight into the other person's feelings or problems. 

An example: What if one person is having financial problems, the dependent person is not in tune with the feelings of what the other person is going through. Now, if both people are interdependent, they will know what the other person is going through.

This is just an example and can be applied to any situation. The couple transforms into true lovers as opposed to acting the part of a lover!

Do you want to be a true lover?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#60: Do you continue with the Religion you were born into just for your kids?

In the west ,we live in a secular society. Joseph Campbell, the world's expert on comparative religion said,"Our culture has gone into an economic and political phase, where the spiritual principles are completely disregarded."

Over the years, I have witnessed our secular social order, just follow along with their inherited family's religion. If parents, do not adhere to the religious system, than why do we continue?

We continue because we don't stand either way. If we have strong convictions, we will stand up to them. Like Joseph Campbell said, our society is purely economical and political.

We lost a sense of mystery to the cosmos. People will say they are more spiritual than religious. But what does this mean and can we bring up our kids to be more spiritual?

I have a profound saying," To be religious is to have an obligation to a particular religion but to be truly spiritual is to have a commitment to your soul."-Serena Jade

Can you let go of the religion you were born into?

If so, can you get in touch with the mystery in relation to yourself and the cosmos?

Can you relate this to your children?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#59: How do you share Sex and Money in a relationship?

All of us ask a question when we form a relationship. The questions are: What can the other person do for me? or What can I do for the other person?  The questions involve sex, money and procreation.

Can we transcend these questions? How do we do it?

Both of these questions create the exploiter and the martyr. One person manipulates and the other feels guilt.

To go beyond this mindset, we honor the other person. "We can say, I would like that mate in exchange for sharing our bodies for sex and to share our money resources for the mundane and for a higher purpose."-Serena Jade

"When we honor one another, we create abundance and fulfillment."-Serena Jade

However, in order to share we need to be able to share without losing our own power (independence).

Are you up for the challenge?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
www.serenajade.co

 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#58:Do you belong to You?

I don't want to sit at the head of the table
I don't need to be lord of the house
All I'm asking for is you and I to be lovers

The above lyrics are from You Belong to You, a new song by Johnny Hates Jazz.

Observe our world and you will notice MOST relationships and must likely all, are on a parent to a child level. One person wants control over the other (The Parent). The other is more than likely to obey (child).

Only until we become conscious of this dynamic, will it change. It takes a well-developed man to be an equal with their lover. It takes a well-developed woman to be an equal with their man.

Until this imbalance is resolved, a soul mate will be beyond your reach. Click on the link below to view the profound lyrics to another new Johnny Hates Jazz song...
The Soul Mate Prep Blog: The Soul Mate Prep Blog#33: Do you want to hear a...: I can see it in your eyes you're a spirit I recognize feelings I can't explain and I don't even know your name Do we only ...

Are you ready to resolve the parent and child relationship?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel." -Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#57: Do you know Soul Mates/Twin Flames are in the presence of a Holy Deity?

"To touch the soul of another human being is to walk on holy ground."-Stephen R. Covey

The author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Mr. Covey, touched on the very essence of a soul mate/Twin Flame connection.

"When we become conscious of our soul's mates and or twin flame, we will be in the presence of a holy deity."-Serena Jade

"This extraordinary encounter makes me feel as if I have just arrived at a temple. I have been given access to the Divine. As I enter the room where the holy of holies resides, I can feel the spark of the Almighty deep within her. Her intense vibrant force makes me want to cry, and I am struck by the realization of how very close to her I am."-Excerpt from Charismatic Connection

The above paragraph is taken from my book, Charismatic Connection. I am putting into words what Chris Antley and I experienced. Chris was the high priest and only the high clergy has access to the holy of holies.

"Only our soul has access to the holy of holies of another."- Serena Jade -However, our lower nature must be in accord with the spiritual God or Goddess before us.

Are you ready to work on your lower nature (Personality)?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade

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Serena Jade

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#56: Both people desire sex in the beginning of a relationship, why doesn't it last?

In the beginning, both people are going with the flow with their new found sexual partner. However, that doesn't last long, power starts to infiltrate the relationship. One person wants control and expects their sexual needs to be taken care of. The flow has stopped and what was a natural process, has become a chore for the person who is under control.

Over the years, I have heard people say, sex is the glue that holds couples together.

I disagree and many books have been written about sex is the climax to a give and take outside the bedroom!

Why doesn't the flow last?

Because one person wants to control both people and the natural flow has been halted.

What is the solution?

I quote Jimi Hendrix, "when the power of love overcomes the love of power."- Our relationships will flow outside the bedroom as well as inside.

Do you agree or disagree?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#55: What do women want most in a man that starts with the letter M?

Sacred (Money) and Profane (Soul Mate) Love by Titian


Fourteen sunsets ago, I was flipping through the channels and stopped at Family Feud. Steve Harvey, the host, asked, What do women want most in a man that starts with the letter M?

The contestants answered, masculinity, muscles. However, the number 1 answer was...Money!

What does this say about our society?

"We say we want love but our emotions say, "I need someone else to be responsible for me."-Serena Jade

Most women want to be taken care of but when someone else is responsible for another, it creates an imbalance.

The imbalance sets up a child to a parent relationship. As a society, let's transcend our 12th century emotions into a 21st- century, interdependent couple!

Are you ready to change?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel of all Knowledge."-Serena Jade
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