The Soul Mate Prep Blog#42: Do you have the courage to confront your demons?

Palm Desert, California

In Carl Jung's Red Book, he asks, is it solitude to be with one's self? His soul answers, solitude is only true when the soul is a desert.

For me, living in the desert for the past year and a half, has given me the opportunity to confront my demons.

What are my demons? For me, growing up and identifying with the pseudo-independent persona, I had to confront being alone. This means being alone in the desert triggered my abandonment issues. Codependent people hate to be alone because of the childhood unmet need. However, no one could help me confront this issue but myself.

The negative emotion of shame had to come out in the open and become a feeling again. I realize now being alone in the desert has given me the greatest gift: to know the darkest part of myself!

Are you ready to confront your demons so you can live a serene life?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#41: Do you want to create heaven on earth?

One's lack of emotional autonomy and confidence creates an imbalance of power in relationships. When one is free and independent, one will have healthy boundaries with another. One will own their thoughts and feelings (fear/doubt).So, one does not have to control someone else.

This interdependent couple: are two separate people who own their own space. Couples who see themselves as two separate people are less inclined to take one another for granted.

In a soul mate connection it is paramount to see each other as two separate people. The dysfunctional enmeshment in a traditional relationship cannot be sustained in a soul mate connection. Soul Mates "see" and "know" each other from a deep place. In order for soul mates to embrace as ONE, they need to be 2 separate people. Their relationship is based upon equal power which leads to a mutual emotional give and take...real intimacy!

Are ready to become free and independent?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#40: Are You Letting Fate or Free Will, Control your Destiny?

 "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."- Carl Jung

I was fated to be the caretaker for my mother.My mother imposed her free will onto me. I was not supposed to be happy or have a life of my own.

However, my free will gave me the wisdom to understand this dysfunctional interplay. My conscious awareness empowered me to make a wise choice and move toward my destiny.

I needed an emotional sense of self before I could take the journey to make a choice. It has been really, really hard to break away from my fate.

"The less self-awareness a person has, the more he is unfree.That is to say, the more he is controlled by inhibitions,  repressions, childhood conditioning which he has consciously "forgotten" but which still drive him unconsciously."-Rollo May

Are you letting fate or free will, control your destiny?

                            Serena Jade
                             www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#38: Do you think medication should be the main form of treatment for depression?

Last week, I received a link to watch, Andrew Solomon, a writer on politics, culture and psychology give a TED speech on depression.

In the comment box I write: Great talk...is medication the answer? In my experience, no! My dysfunctional upbringing was the cause and the effect was my depression.I have spent years undoing my unhealthy childhood.

I like the part in the speech Andrew says, "you relapse and relapse."

Depression is an important part of healing, because it is telling you issues that were once repressed are coming to the surface and needs to be brought into one's conscious mind.Medication will rob you of this precious gift!

I received a response about the medication issue and I said: I feel most get defensive when medication is viewed as a weakness.That is not what I am saying, I am saying in order to transform, we need to be in touch with the pain, so we can understand what the pain is saying! 

Medication robs us of the pain. We have a tendency to say everything is okay, when the pain is not there. Medication is a mask covering the pain.

Just Like, if your back hurts, your body is telling you something is wrong and needs attention.

Our mind is the same, the pain is telling us something is wrong and needs your attention. However, the answer is not right in front of us. That is where therapy and doing one's homework can and will, transform the unhealthy mindset, and after years will bring you a serene mind!

I received another response: The person says, I agree in part, but what if it is a chemical problem?

I answer: I feel if doctors viewed my brain years ago, they would have viewed a very different brain than what my brain looks like today. A different state of mind changes the molecules in your brain.

I feel if one goes into the psychotic phase, one needs medication. However, how many of us are going into the psychotic phase?

I came across an article I saved from 15-years ago it says," our society's medical insurance and how pharmaceutical companies attack Freud and Jung, and say we don't need therapy anymore, and that therapy doesn't do any good. Just take these pills. 

The whole advance in psychology made through suffering, all that is thrown away and you simply give people pills for their depression."

No one is going to tell me if I took pills years ago, I would be transformed.  The pain and my will to know myself gave me the greatest gift: I created myself into a whole person with a serene mind!

Therapy should be the main form of treatment for depression. Do you agree or disagree?

                           Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#37: Are you ready for intimacy?

Autonomy: Freedom from external influence or control.

Confidence: Is a firm belief in one's powers, abilities, knowingness or capacities.

The ability to be autonomous and to have confidence will transform one's life. The opposite of these two aspects are shame and doubt.

When there is shame and doubt one's thought process is clouded. Either we are under-confident or overly-confident; the powerful and powerless.

Shame must be made into a feeling again and not a system of belief, where one is not good enough. Bring shame out in the open and doubt will cease. When one can do this... we will be secure, committed, compassionate and ready for intimacy!

Are you ready to become your potential?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.com

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#36: Does matter and antimatter in physics mirror the ultimate soul mate?



A child's drawing of matter and antimatter at CERN!

Cern-The European Nuclear Research Center in Geneva-on the Franco-Swiss border.

Physics-comes from the Greek, "knowledge of nature." Physics is a science to understand how the universe behaves.

Every particle in the universe created out of the Big Bang appears to have a partner particle. Physicists right now only see matter. However, they understand the universe produced about as much  matter as antimatter.

When matter and antimatter meet they create a third entity-energy!

Physicists know matter and antimatter are always produced as a pair. The same energy but it's opposite charge, a mirror image. The ancients Greeks knew of the Atom but they couldn't prove it.

The matter and antimatter story could certainly mirror Plato's understanding, it was their very essence that had been split in two, so each half missed its other half.-Symposium

When matter and antimatter meet it is said, "they will annihilate or there will be an explosion of joy! "

Which do you want an annihilation or joy?

If you choose joy, then it takes a tremendous amount of inner understanding. Are you ready to take the arduous journey up steep hills and down vast valleys to reunite? 

                            Serena Jade

Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant

www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#35: Do you take life for granted?

It is believed dying by the River Ganges can improve one's past life actions: Varanasi, India

In the west, we have a mindset, we only live once. Our minds are influenced by our cultural/religious upbringing. We are taught if we live life as "good" people, this thing called the soul goes to heaven. If we lived a life as a "bad" person, this thing called the soul goes to hell.

In the east, people are influenced by their cultural/religious upbringing and believe they have lived many lives. They have a mindset their past lives influence their present life.

In the west, we think having lived here before is a joke. We poke fun at saying, I was so and so in a past life. However, when someone dies we say, this thing called the soul is in a better place.

What if this Earth is the better place and our minds are in hell?

Do you try to control your life?

Our personality/ego thinks it can control life, therefore we assume our body is immortal. However, are you aware of your authentic immortal part of you?

"The more we control, the more we take life for granted."-Serena Jade

Ideally, the power to direct our energy authentically is to take care of our body/mind and connect with our immortal soul-and transcend our past life actions. When we can achieve this, we are free and grateful knowing our mortal body is precious!

Are you ready to direct your energy into knowing yourself?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."- Serena Jade
                                   www.serenajade.co