The Soul Mate Prep Blog#28: Do you think you are autonomous?

The dictionary defines autonomy as: freedom from external influence or control.

"To be autonomous is the ultimate state of being because one has an internal strength to guard their space."-Serena Jade

I was a classic co-dependent.I took on the pseudo-independent role but I didn't have freedom.I thought about others approval and feelings more than my own.In so doing, there was a lot of shame and doubt in my head.

To be autonomous is to be empowered; this means one owns their freedom.When an empowered person gets into a relationship with a significant other - THE COMMON DOMINATE AND SUBSERVIENT: DOES NOT APPLY!

Are you ready to own your freedom?


                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#27: Would you sacrifice your survival, security, personal relationships for an invisible calling?

Joseph Campbell said, "A person who is gripped by a calling, by a dedication, by a belief, by a zeal will sacrifice their security, will sacrifice even their life, will sacrifice personal relationships, they will give themselves entirely to their purpose."

I am such a person who has heeded a call to honor my soul's purpose.I had to break away from my guilt-inducing narcissistic mother and follow my soul's voice. I left New York and came to the desert of California to establish myself as a role-model and as a writer of personal and spiritual wisdom.

I am dedicated to tell my story of my personal journey from understanding my own soul to recognizing a true eternal love. I am here to tell you my personality was not in a position to live a peaceful life with a profound love or with anyone else.

I am here to tell you what I discovered along my arduous journey towards self- realization.It is not easy following an invisible path because you are not following the laws of our society.It takes tremendous faith in yourself that you are following the right path for you.

Are you ready to heed such a call?
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#26: Are some parents too permissive?

I would like to quote John Sanford, a Jungian analyst...it does not help a child to have parents who are permissive toward all kinds of behavior.In a permissive atmosphere a child's capacity to develop their own monitoring system is blunted.The ego development will then be too weak to enable the child as an adult to cope.

My parents were anything but permissive.However, I don't condone the way my parents especially my mother parented me.However, I do know if they were permissive, my personality would not have the strength to handle the pain and to overcome the dysfunctional family system I was born in.

I was watching, The Piers Morgan Show the other night and Piers was interviewing, Pastor Rick Warren and his wife.In my opinion, the Warren's were permissive with their mentally ill son, who just recently committed suicide. Rick Warren and his wife knew their son purchased an illegal gun.

Do you think it is acceptable to witness your child (who is unstable) have a gun in their possession?

Piers Morgan I feel is a hypocrite, he has been going on and on about stricter gun laws.However, he did not challenge the Warren's on why they did not do anything knowing their mentally ill son had an illegal gun and could have killed others too.

Shouldn't we protect our loved ones from harm?

I know one cannot stop someone from hurting themselves or others but we can do everything possible to prevent such an occurrence.

Ultimately, it is the parents job to instill moral behavior in their child.That means, it is the parent's job not to be too permissive nor too strict but somewhere in between. Parents should have knowledge of their own psychological history, so we can create mentally whole healthy children.

When I was younger, I thought I was the mentally ill person in my family.After years of being an explorer of my own personal history, I discovered it was not me who was mentally ill but my mother and her father before her and so and so on...

Are you ready to take accountability for your child's mental health?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#25: Do you know love is a name we give for the pursuit of wholeness?

In an ordinary enchantment, we are attracted to someone for two reasons...

1.We are sexually attracted to their appearance.

2.The other person has the missing personality traits we need to be whole.

When we get involved in this relationship it feels wonderful in the beginning.Plato understood this phenomenon and said 2500 years ago, "Love is just a name we give to the desire and pursuit of wholeness."

We feel elated and euphoric however, this sense of enlightenment does not last for long.

Why do you think this is?

The other person is temporarily making you feel whole.But this is a false sense of wholeness.After the initial phase both people start to create power struggles with the missing trait; projected onto the other person.

Instead of marrying this person, we can be in a relationship with them...I call this a potential growth relationship because we can transform into a whole person!

"When we are whole, we can partner with our soul's mates." - Serena Jade

Are you ready to be in a personal growth relationship?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#24: Where were you on September 11, 2002?

September 11, 2001, will be forever etched in my mind, as well as the whole United States. Growing up, I marveled at the Twin Towers and on a clear day you could see them from miles away.

The morning of 9/11, was one of those rare beautiful New York days.There wasn't a cloud in the sky and the temperature was going to be in the 80's...

What I witnessed, the following year on September 11, 2002, is just as profound.Collectively, everyone in New York and the country if not the world focused on the first anniversary.

The departed souls and everyone thinking about the same event created such an intense all-consuming wind that whipped through the entire tri-state area of New York.The strong gusts were extreme and everyone knew the souls who died on 9/11 were with us.

Do you think it is possible to change the world, if large numbers of people came together thinking the same thought?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co
 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#23: Do you want Cinderella's fantasy?

What little girl doesn't want to be Cinderella?

We grow up in a world hearing this fairy tale.However, the real Cinderella is on house-arrest, taking care of her step-mother and two-step sisters.Her sisters are Good, Respected and have a life of their own.

In order to just survive, Cinderella has to create a fantasy...her step-mother and sisters are visible, good and respected.Cinderella is invisible, bad, worthless and disrespected.

In Cinderella's mind, her mother and sisters have to be good, otherwise she couldn't survive.This fantasy is like a mirage in the desert.Cinderella needs this fantasy, it is her life support.

Just like, if you were out in the blazing hot sun in the middle of the desert with no water to drink.The fantasy that an oasis is ahead keeps you alive but barely.Sooner or later, you are going to drop and die, if you don't get to an oasis.

Cinderella finds her oasis within...her shame comes out of hiding and thus is seen and respected. Now, she can meet her Prince and can live happily ever after!

This transformation has taken years to accomplish.She has extinguished her fantasy bond with her cruel mother and sisters and creates her real life dream...

Knowing Cinderella's fantasy: Do you want the fantasy or the real life dream?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#22: Do you think children should be the love of your life?

Years ago, a friend of mine said to me, "People don't care about loving one's body, or being a friend to one's significant other." She said, "People want security above anything else."

My friend did get married to someone she had no connection with, other than to feel secure. Days after the wedding they slept in separate rooms, and came together just for sex.

I stopped talking to her and years later she befriended me on Facebook. We corresponded via e-mail and she told me she has two children, a boy and girl. She came from a broken home and was an only child. She grew up becoming best friends with her mother. She didn't have a relationship with her father and even became resentful of men.

As we were conversing back and forth, I got the feeling which I knew all along that she would recreate the same scenario with her life. She has a very close relationship with her daughter and the husband is there to provide for her security. She views her daughter as a gift from God and not her son. So, she has become best friends with the daughter and the husband and son are on the sidelines watching their close bond.

"Since it was my responsibility to take care of my mother. I know it is not healthy to think of children as a substitute for loving one's self or as a substitute for a great relationship."-Serena Jade

Children need their own life and the parents do too!  

Do you feel your children are the love of your life?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co