The Soul Mate Prep Blog#31: If you saw your 20 year-old self walking down the street, what would you say?

If I saw my 20 year-old self walking down the street-first I would give her a big hug. Then I would tell her it is going to be a long difficult road ahead.I would tell her the sooner she understands her personal history, the faster her suffering will dissipate...

I would tell my 20 year-old self: When you were little you repeatedly experienced the shame of abandonment.Your dysfunctional family gave you an environment where they said non verbally,"you are not important, you are not of value."

At age 5, you were on the school's playground feeling all alone, very scared. We are going to fast forward a few years, and you were at a friend's house, you must have been 7 or 8 years- old. Your so-called friend and another child locked you inside a room.They were making fun of you, telling you over again, you are not of value.You were very scared and ran home, you knew you couldn't tell your mother, she would not validate your feelings.So, you ran into your bedroom where you felt safe.

You hated school for the number 1 reason you repeatedly felt left out.However, that was what you were experiencing at home and the result was magnified at school.

When you look back at your life, you will be amazed on how you have survived. In the animal world, when a pup is left all alone without their clan-they are overpowered and killed by a predator.Your whole life you have been overpowered by mean and cruel people.You were taught to be Nice even if people are not Nice to you-a victim statement. 

My twenty year -old self-stand up for yourself and know deeply you are important and have lots of value..know it, believe it!

Would you encourage your 20 year- old self to look at their personal history? 

If not, know that their past is recreated in the present!

                           Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.com





 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#30: When will the power of love overcome the love of power?

The traditional marriage equals two separate people interacting with one another. Fast forward a year and a half and we have one person in charge for the both of them.
 
When one person wants control of the other, we love the power and not the person. Ideally, we have to figure out, what are the obstacles that prevent us from truly loving us. When we figure that out, we can mate with someone who loves us and not the power!

Do you want someone who loves Power or You?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
                             www.serenajade.com

 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#29: Are you making a list for what you want in a soul mate?

Joseph Campbell said, "But I take you as my center, and you are my bliss, not the wealth that you bring me, not the social prestige, but you.That is following your bliss."

When we make a list about what we want from a soul mate, and when someone comes along and meets that criteria, we have found the One!

I have to ask you, who do you think is making the list?

Your answer is you, however, it is your ego that has a set standard NOT your soul!

If I had made a list years ago, before I crossed paths with Chris (my book Charismatic Connection you might want to read it), my ego's items would have been too small.The gift Chris gave me was a profound awakening of an eternal love.That gift is not measured in the material world.  I saw HIM first and his gorgeous looks, status and wealth were second!

"Throw away the list and connect with your soul.The ego is too limited or inflated for what your soul can bring you, both materially and non-material!"-Serena Jade

Are you ready to throw away the list?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
Bringing unconscious Social/Mystical wisdom to the world...
www.serenajade.co


 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#28: Do you think you are autonomous?

The dictionary defines autonomy as: freedom from external influence or control.

"To be autonomous is the ultimate state of being because one has an internal strength to guard their space."-Serena Jade

I was a classic co-dependent.I took on the pseudo-independent role but I didn't have freedom.I thought about others approval and feelings more than my own.In so doing, there was a lot of shame and doubt in my head.

To be autonomous is to be empowered; this means one owns their freedom.When an empowered person gets into a relationship with a significant other - THE COMMON DOMINATE AND SUBSERVIENT: DOES NOT APPLY!

Are you ready to own your freedom?


                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

 

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#27: Would you sacrifice your survival, security, personal relationships for an invisible calling?

Joseph Campbell said, "A person who is gripped by a calling, by a dedication, by a belief, by a zeal will sacrifice their security, will sacrifice even their life, will sacrifice personal relationships, they will give themselves entirely to their purpose."

I am such a person who has heeded a call to honor my soul's purpose.I had to break away from my guilt-inducing narcissistic mother and follow my soul's voice. I left New York and came to the desert of California to establish myself as a role-model and as a writer of personal and spiritual wisdom.

I am dedicated to tell my story of my personal journey from understanding my own soul to recognizing a true eternal love. I am here to tell you my personality was not in a position to live a peaceful life with a profound love or with anyone else.

I am here to tell you what I discovered along my arduous journey towards self- realization.It is not easy following an invisible path because you are not following the laws of our society.It takes tremendous faith in yourself that you are following the right path for you.

Are you ready to heed such a call?
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#26: Are some parents too permissive?

I would like to quote John Sanford, a Jungian analyst...it does not help a child to have parents who are permissive toward all kinds of behavior.In a permissive atmosphere a child's capacity to develop their own monitoring system is blunted.The ego development will then be too weak to enable the child as an adult to cope.

My parents were anything but permissive.However, I don't condone the way my parents especially my mother parented me.However, I do know if they were permissive, my personality would not have the strength to handle the pain and to overcome the dysfunctional family system I was born in.

I was watching, The Piers Morgan Show the other night and Piers was interviewing, Pastor Rick Warren and his wife.In my opinion, the Warren's were permissive with their mentally ill son, who just recently committed suicide. Rick Warren and his wife knew their son purchased an illegal gun.

Do you think it is acceptable to witness your child (who is unstable) have a gun in their possession?

Piers Morgan I feel is a hypocrite, he has been going on and on about stricter gun laws.However, he did not challenge the Warren's on why they did not do anything knowing their mentally ill son had an illegal gun and could have killed others too.

Shouldn't we protect our loved ones from harm?

I know one cannot stop someone from hurting themselves or others but we can do everything possible to prevent such an occurrence.

Ultimately, it is the parents job to instill moral behavior in their child.That means, it is the parent's job not to be too permissive nor too strict but somewhere in between. Parents should have knowledge of their own psychological history, so we can create mentally whole healthy children.

When I was younger, I thought I was the mentally ill person in my family.After years of being an explorer of my own personal history, I discovered it was not me who was mentally ill but my mother and her father before her and so and so on...

Are you ready to take accountability for your child's mental health?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant
www.serenajade.co

The Soul Mate Prep Blog#25: Do you know love is a name we give for the pursuit of wholeness?

In an ordinary enchantment, we are attracted to someone for two reasons...

1.We are sexually attracted to their appearance.

2.The other person has the missing personality traits we need to be whole.

When we get involved in this relationship it feels wonderful in the beginning.Plato understood this phenomenon and said 2500 years ago, "Love is just a name we give to the desire and pursuit of wholeness."

We feel elated and euphoric however, this sense of enlightenment does not last for long.

Why do you think this is?

The other person is temporarily making you feel whole.But this is a false sense of wholeness.After the initial phase both people start to create power struggles with the missing trait; projected onto the other person.

Instead of marrying this person, we can be in a relationship with them...I call this a potential growth relationship because we can transform into a whole person!

"When we are whole, we can partner with our soul's mates." - Serena Jade

Are you ready to be in a personal growth relationship?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant