The Soul Mate Prep Blog#75: Doesn't it sound great to care for each other?

In my last post, I talk about one of two questions we adhere to when looking for a mate...The Soul Mate Prep Blog: The Soul Mate Prep Blog#74: What question do you a...: All of us unconsciously ask one of two questions, when we seek out a potential partner. We either ask: what can I do for you? This is the c...

When we become interdependent, we want to care for another. What does this mean?

First: we need to care for our self.
Second: you would want to nurture your partner. Cook them meals, think about their feelings, support them in their goals.
Third: you would encourage a healthy existence to live a long life together!

However, if one is always nurturing the other and the other not caring about them, it is not healthy.

Do you want to be true lovers and care about the other?

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#74: What question do you ask when you are on a date?

All of us unconsciously ask one of two questions, when we seek out a potential partner. We either ask: what can I do for you? This is the co-dependent. Or what can the other person do for me? This is the dependent.

Do you think these questions are healthy?

We unconsciously set up a situation where we are not on the same team. This creates the actor of love.

Do you want to transform your question?


In order to transform, we need to be truly autonomous/independent. Then we can ask: What can we do for each other. Doesn't that question sound better?  Now, we are interdependent and become true lovers!

Do you want to attract a true lover?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#73: Are you in the mood to pray for a spiritual connection to come into your life?

Galilee, Israel

 

"Israel is celebrating a holiday, equivalent to St. Valentine’s Day.The people from the Kabbalah Center and I make a spiritual journey to an ancient rabbi’s tomb to pray. I’ve heard it said that the energies from his resting place can connect a person to a soul mate within the year."-Excerpt from Charismatic Connection

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The night of August 10th, 2014 is the Super full moon and the start of Judaism's day of love!

 

Will you participate in an act of awe on August 10th, 2014?

 

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#72: Are we immortal?

When my father died, I could not accept we live and then just die. It did not make sense to me.

Most people accept one of two thought systems, either this unknown thing called the soul goes to heaven or we just die and that is it.

I did not adhere to either of these thoughts when my father died. Not to mention, my father died months after Chris and I stopped crossing paths and we were waking each other up to our spiritual nature. But, that is my book Charismatic Connection, you might want to read it!

In the years after my father's death, I began to consciously wake up to my own soul. My soul which is intangible has been here many times before.

My father always used to say to my mother, "I was here before." He was waking up to his spiritual soul.

I thought the movie, I Origins portrayed the ancient wisdom of reincarnation very well.

Don't you want to know what happens when we die and not just assume we perish or this thing called the soul goes to heaven?

Are you ready to get in touch with your own soul?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#71: Do you think enmeshment is oneness?

Enmeshment is when personal boundaries are violated because we are influenced by outside authority.

As a society, we assume oneness means enmeshment-we are one with our beloved. Enmeshment creates the common dominate and submissive. This is not an equal relationship!

One person wants control over the other, making the other person subservient. The person with the control eventually takes the other person for granted and has become an extension, thus is not seen as a separate person. Therefore, the one with the control does not think highly of the other. This is not oneness!!!

"True oneness is when two autonomous people, recognize the soul in another and become one at their spiritual essence but remain two separate autonomous people."-Serena Jade

Do you think you can be one without enmeshment?

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog# 70: Do you allow yourself to focus inward?

We live in an outer-directed world, where an inner focus is frowned upon.

What is an inner focus?

An inner focus is reflecting and understanding one's limitations. We can easily blame an outside source but ultimately, we are our own hero.

When we are free of outside influence, we are autonomous. When we have autonomy, we can live from the heart, which connects our personality to our soul and live our purpose.

Do you have peace?

If you are trying to control your environment, your inner life is in disarray!

Are you ready to focus inward?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#69: Are you seeing the truth about marriage?

Recently, I read an article about marriage. As I was reading the comments, most people say a great relationship is based on mutual respect, common goals and love.

I ask you: Do you think we are living these values?

It is easy to say mutual respect but to have mutual respect means both people have to be autonomous-that means free from outside influence.

If most people are following along with their family and friends, they are not autonomous. Most marriages, if not all are based on the common goal of family and children, and not a common goal of the two individuals!

Now, we have love-the grand elusive word. However, connecting with someone at the heart is very profound because we are on bridge that connects our personality with our soul.

When we connect personally with our soul, we will connect with someone at the heart level. Now, we are a real lover as opposed to an actor! But, this takes a tremendous amount of understanding of one's self.

Are you ready to stop the fantasy bond about the traditional marriage?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#68: Are the values of a traditional marriage really what you want?

The traditional marriage was first and foremost about survival. Survival of civilization, families, our species and ourselves.

In the west, we don't think of marriage is for survival, we think we are marrying for love. Today, we associate doing equal chores for an egalitarian relationship!

Friedrich Nietzsche stated: As society changes, we need to change our values. It is simple idiotic to attempt to live by the values of another age.

If you observe, you will notice people are unconsciously marrying for survival needs! We NEED security, we exploit for money and sex. We mindlessly procreate and we demonstrate our power or lack of power with another.

Are you willing to change your old values and live by new ones?

If so, this means you will consciously balance the needs of survival first and then marry. Are you ready to marry for love and not survival?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#66: Are established New Age believers true to their ego or soul?

In his book, Jung and the New Age, Professor David Tacey states: "It is Jung's belief that the human ego (Personality) must voluntarily serve and attend a larger spiritual mystery. This is in contrast to the widespread popular belief that the spiritual mystery must serve and attend the needs of the ego." 

In my experience, people who say they are "Spiritual" are just following along and living a conventional life. Their egos have attained a certain amount of stability and now they want to capitalize on the new spiritual mindset that has been developing for some years now!

In this inauthentic age, the soul is just an avenue to meet their own needs; this is narcissistic!

Years ago, I attended a lecture on the Kabbalah and the Rabbi said it all: People think that relaxation is being spiritual. "To live authentically true to one's soul is following unseen passion and wisdom that doesn't adhere to society's rules."-Serena Jade

The purpose of the ego is to express the soul. After many years, the ego has attained authentic stability, has personal power and becomes autonomous! The ego now can serve their spiritual soul as their authentic self is born- the incarnation of the human with the Divine!

Are you true to your ego or soul?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#65: Is your intuitive mind equal with your rational mind?

We live in a world, where our rational ego minds dominate. What if we lived in accordance with our intuitive mind? What would that look like?

Our rational mind says, we need to abide by the extroverted rules of our social order. We are ruled by our five senses. What we see, hear, touch, taste and smell is the law.

Very logical, objective thought is accepted and never questioned. If one deviates from "the law" and lives by an inner knowing, they are thought to be crazy. Fear, sets in for the people around this person  as that person is reflecting fear in the other.

Living in conjunction with our intuitive mind, opens our lives to an infinite number of possibilities. To be intuitive is to have a sense to look within and pay attention to the information, that is not logical!

"Our rational mind is finite, our intuitive mind is infinite."-Serena Jade

Are you ready to take a  journey to connect your intuitive mind with your rational mind?

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#64: Do you have the courage to take the step to the other side of life?

I was walking on the boardwalk in Long Beach, New York on a hazy, hot and humid day two years ago. I was listening to a friend's Ipod and the Moody Blues song, The Other Side of Life began to play.

The song was released in 1986 and I am sure, I have listened to it many times before. But, on that July day, absorbed in my favorite east coast weather, weeks before, I would make my move to California and cross the threshold, the words deeply resonated with me!

The risk the lovers and fighters take, are on the other side. For me, that meant separating from my narcissistic mother so , I could be my own person. As the song goes, you know the only way to get there is to take the very difficult first step. I took that step and the arduous journey on the other side was necessary to ready myself for my deepest love!

Are you wiling to take a risk and investigate the other side of life?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#63: Do you understand your past?

Two weeks ago, I was watching the TV show Blackbox. I was appalled at what the writer's put out in the world. Blackbox is about a woman who is bipolar. The woman's psychotherapist tells her to forget the past and focus on the now.

OH MY GOD...I COULD NOT BELIEVE WHAT I WAS HEARING.HOWEVER, I DID HAVE A REALIZATION.

"There is a big difference between thinking vs. understanding one's past."-Serena Jade

If I did not understand my past, I know for a fact I would be dead right now!

Most of us think, forget the past, what is the past going to do for me now?

Thinking about the past is not going to do anything. But, understanding will transform your present and future as opposed to recreating the past!

Are you ready to understand your past?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#62: Are you decorating before laying a foundation?

A wedding in our culture is a beautiful event. However, is it celebrating a relationship built on solid ground?

If you were to build a house; you would lay the foundation and then pour the concrete to form a strong structure. Then the walls can go up and a roof is put on. The floors and windows are put in to create the home, where you can now have fun and decorate the sacred space!

So, the decoration is the last fun step. A relationship should be the same; first you lay down a foundation. Two people understand their past and transform their childhood wounds.

They pour the concrete by coming together to create a healthy supportive relationship. Now, they are ready to decorate their bond, by having a ceremony to celebrate their creation of self to the relationship!

"In our society, we put tremendous amount of effort for the wedding as opposed to putting that energy into building a strong and beautiful relationship, first to the self and then to the other."-Serena Jade 

Don't you want a solid structure before you start to decorate?

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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#61: Are you an actor or true lover?

If you are a regular reader of mine, thank you. You know, I discuss one's security, sharing one's body and money as opposed to using another and to own one's power for a functional self.

Functional parents will provide their members with the above in a healthy manner. A dysfunctional family will not, the parents don't have the knowledge to provide in a healthy way.

Functional parents will provide emotional security, will role-model equal sharing of sex and money and will demonstrate equal power. "Equal power means one person doesn't control both people but are two independent humans!"-Serena Jade

When functional parents exude the issues of a healthy survival system, the members are ready for the ultimate jump in our evolution!

The person can relate to dependency and independency thus becomes interdependent. There is sharing of empathy with another and the person can be a true lover as opposed to acting the part.

What does sharing empathy mean?

This means neither are identified with being dependent nor co-dependent. They are interdependent and they take into consideration being in the other person's shoes. They are in tune with the other person's feelings and problems.

The co-dependent is the caretaker and the dependent is dependent on the other person. The dependent doesn't have the insight into the other person's feelings or problems. 

An example: What if one person is having financial problems, the dependent person is not in tune with the feelings of what the other person is going through. Now, if both people are interdependent, they will know what the other person is going through.

This is just an example and can be applied to any situation. The couple transforms into true lovers as opposed to acting the part of a lover!

Do you want to be a true lover?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#60: Do you continue with the Religion you were born into just for your kids?

In the west ,we live in a secular society. Joseph Campbell, the world's expert on comparative religion said,"Our culture has gone into an economic and political phase, where the spiritual principles are completely disregarded."

Over the years, I have witnessed our secular social order, just follow along with their inherited family's religion. If parents, do not adhere to the religious system, than why do we continue?

We continue because we don't stand either way. If we have strong convictions, we will stand up to them. Like Joseph Campbell said, our society is purely economical and political.

We lost a sense of mystery to the cosmos. People will say they are more spiritual than religious. But what does this mean and can we bring up our kids to be more spiritual?

I have a profound saying," To be religious is to have an obligation to a particular religion but to be truly spiritual is to have a commitment to your soul."-Serena Jade

Can you let go of the religion you were born into?

If so, can you get in touch with the mystery in relation to yourself and the cosmos?

Can you relate this to your children?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#29: Are you making a list for what you want in a soul mate?

Joseph Campbell said, "But I take you as my center, and you are my bliss, not the wealth that you bring me, not the social prestige, but you.That is following your bliss."

When we make a list about what we want from a soul mate, and when someone comes along and meets that criteria, we have found the One!

I have to ask you, who do you think is making the list?

Your answer is you, however, it is your ego that has a set standard NOT your soul!

If I had made a list years ago, before I crossed paths with Chris (my book Charismatic Connection you might want to read it), my ego's items would have been too small.The gift Chris gave me was a profound awakening of an eternal love.That gift is not measured in the material world.  I saw HIM first and his gorgeous looks, status and wealth were second!

"Throw away the list and connect with your soul.The ego is too limited or inflated for what your soul can bring you, both materially and non-material!"-Serena Jade

Are you ready to throw away the list?

"Self-Knowledge is the Jewel."-Serena Jade
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The Soul Mate Prep Blog#25: Do you know love is a name we give for the pursuit of wholeness?

In an ordinary enchantment, we are attracted to someone for two reasons...

1.We are sexually attracted to their appearance.

2.The other person has the missing personality traits we need to be whole.

When we get involved in this relationship it feels wonderful in the beginning.Plato understood this phenomenon and said 2500 years ago, "Love is just a name we give to the desire and pursuit of wholeness."

We feel elated and euphoric however, this sense of enlightenment does not last for long.

Why do you think this is?

The other person is temporarily making you feel whole.But this is a false sense of wholeness.After the initial phase both people start to create power struggles with the missing trait; projected onto the other person.

Instead of marrying this person, we can be in a relationship with them...I call this a potential growth relationship because we can transform into a whole person!

"When we are whole, we can partner with our soul's mates." - Serena Jade

Are you ready to be in a personal growth relationship?

                            Serena Jade
Author/Speaker/Body, Mind, and Soul Consultant